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Im honoured…Im honoured:-)

Posted by Nimmy on August 28, 2008

I am feeling great today..IndianHomeMaker has passed me the “Brillaint Weblog Award”..Im honoured..Thank you IHM :-)

 

Its just been two months since I had my first post.I digged into cooking,then some random posts on Science,some on Psychology (err..i guess so) and then into Islamic thoughts..then had thoughts on Women..and now struck on Politics .I know Im not through enough to make ‘own’ opinions or posts..Im just trying to learn more..

 

I want to thank all you out there who support me with honest comments and honest appreciations and honest criticisms..I hope to improve myself:-)

 

Good day..

 

P.S

Phew..Why am I acting like a teenager..Ah,never mind:-)

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Winning the war-through women..

Posted by Nimmy on August 28, 2008

Lately,all my attention is struck over Kashmir.Days and days pass by,with nothing much happening on the brighter side.Stories on human rights violation,contributed to a major extent by our own Indian Army,is heart breaking.Maybe Kashmiris are wrong.But does two wrongs makes things right?

 

 

Kashmir is place which is turning out to be goldmine for army and politicians. They need to ensure that the state of trouble remains the same, atleast for their life span as to make the most out of it for selfish motives. Militants on the other hand keep the area in unrest,and have random verses from Quran to ‘justify’, no matter what evil they are doing. India has an estimated 700,000 soldiers in Kashmir, fighting nearly a dozen rebel groups since 1989. In many areas, the region has the feel of an occupied country, with soldiers in full combat gear patrolling streets and frisking civilians

  

After some reading, for some reason, I started asking myself,” Wouldn’t I have been a ‘terrorist’ if me or people around me were subjected to such brutality, for years in row. If a person is wrong, go punish him. Instead, there is a systemic procedure of torturing the culprit’s parents, wife/husband, kids or other friends. How is that right?

I wonder why there isn’t any legitimate source to get information about total causalities in Kashmir. Is it something that ought to be hidden? Fortunately or unfortunately, I didn’t find any authentic source for retrieving such statistics. Still, general reading tells me that hundreds of people are tortured, thousand of children orphaned, women widowed, raped and molested. For some reason, I was greatly disturbed on thinking why the hell women are abused, though the ‘war’ is between men on both sides. Random and disturbing thoughts made me look more into the particular matter

Rape continues to be a major instrument of repression against the Kashmiri people while the majority of casualties in Kashmir are civilians. The Indian authorities have also steadfastly refused to allow any independent monitoring of the situation. The International Federation of Human Rights and the Amnesty International have also been denied permission to visit.

The sexual exploitation of women by people in power is not just a women’s issue. It needs to be addressed by society as a whole. Both the Army and the militants have been using rape as a war weapon. Rape in war is not a matter of physical desire. It is rather a question of power and control. It is the best tool to demoralize people intellectually and spiritually. It is not a matter or exploitation but a well-thought-out and planned propaganda.

 

I wonder and pity the mentality of oppressing a group of people by doing this..Why don’t you put them in jail or shoot them to death. Why rape instead?To die of humiliation? Will they keep on doing this until the last girl, even the one in womb is torn off? I have no wonder why father, brother of husband of such women take law in their hands. What would you do when you watch your wife or daughter or sister getting molested? Go eat pizza?

 

The next set of people, so-called Islamic fundamentalists are out to pour acid over women’s faces if they don’t wear Pardha. Hell, who gave them the right to force religion on others? Did Allah send them an email? When did Islam lose its soul? Well, what more to talk on people who don’t follow any war ethics, instead go blast bombs killing women and children and civilians.

 

Women in Kashmir have also been raped and killed after being abducted by rival militant groups and held as hostages for their male relatives. It is also a way to punish women suspected of being sympathetic to the opposition.

 

This is not a post on women, and not on Muslim women or Hindu women.. Muslim women are abused by Army and Hindu women are abused by militants. Maybe I am silly to feel so angry and frustrated because I just knew about this age old ‘war-technique’ that can be tracked back to biblical times.. And it makes me feel more bad that Army I always used to be proud of keeping guard of whole nation is indulging in such matter.. Several human rights violations have been charged against Indian Army. Interestingly, Indian government doesn’t allow Human rights observers.. Why? I am very sad that my nation’s Army turned out just like American one.. All such unauthorized torturing, disappearances, custody deaths.. and mostly abusing women duh..

 

Sadly, there isn’t proper recording of such crimes due to social stigma against the victim and for fear of more oppression. Army has different set of rules (court marshalling and like) to deal with such crimes, and trials never end in punishments, which atmost in just getting suspended.. May be The Armed Forces (Special Powers) Act of 1958 (AFSPA) is what makes them feel like doing anything whatever they want. Under this Act, all security forces are given unrestricted and unaccounted power to carry out their operations, once an area is declared disturbed. Even a non-commissioned officer is granted the right to shoot to kill based on mere suspicion that it is necessary to do so in order to “maintain the public order”.

 

This is not a propaganda against loyal soldiers who give their lives for the nation .But sad but truly, this war rape is happening in places like Kashmir and north-east parts of India,and the number can’t be tracked back to fingers,but to thousands.. Maybe that’s why those people don’t like being part of India, as it is the soldiers that represent us. Generalizing is injustice, but I never told that all soldiers are  the same..

 

 

 

Read more

 

Women in Kashmir suffer rape, molestation, kin’s disappearances, psychological trauma and torture

http://www.combatlaw.org/information.php?issue_id=36&article_id=997

 

Sex abuse issue in Kashmir has some designs

 

http://www.merinews.com/catFull.jsp?articleID=163

 

Rape As A Weapon Of War And A Tool Of Political Repression

http://www.hrw.org/about/projects/womrep/General-21.htm

War rape

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/War_rape

http://www.hrdc.net/sahrdc/resources/armed_forces.htm

 

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Did you know this about Jammu and Kashmir?

Posted by Nimmy on August 25, 2008

Recently I’ve been observing most of us making raging and sentimental comments about Kashmir ..So I just thought of digging more into what the whole hype is all about.Though I find history a boring subject,the reading about Kashmir’s history was rather an intersting one,especially when related to the comments made today,by people who are ignorant of what happened yesterday,and uninterested of what may happen tomorrow..

 

Kashmir,the heaven on earth; Ka means “water” and Shimir means “to desiccate”.Kashmir stands for “a land desiccated from water”.What is it as of today,a valley of streaming blood?Let’s look back at some history,as I believe that it is history that made life of people of heaven hell..

 

 A briefing from wikipedia:

 

The Mauryan emperor Ashoka is often credited with having founded the city of Srinagar. Kashmir was once a Buddhist seat of learning. Following the advent of Muslim rule in 1349, Islam became the dominant religion in Kashmir. The Muslims and Hindus of Kashmir lived in relative harmony, since the Sufi-Islamic way of life that ordinary Muslims followed in Kashmir complemented the Rishi tradition of Kashmiri Pandits. This led to a synergetic culture where Hindus and Muslims revered the same local saints and prayed at the same shrines and Muslims, Hindus and Buddhists were co-existing in the atmosphere of love and brotherhood.

 

 Earlier, in 1780, after the death of Ranjit Deo, the Raja of Jammu, the kingdom of Jammu (to the south of the Kashmir valley) was captured by the Sikhs under Ranjit Singh of Lahore and afterwards, until 1846, became a tributary to the Sikh power. In 1845, the First Anglo-Sikh War broke out, and Gulab Singh “contrived to hold himself aloof till the battle of Sobraon (1846), when he appeared as a useful mediator and the trusted advisor of Sir Henry Lawrence. Two treaties were concluded. By the first the State of Lahore (i.e. West Punjab) handed over to the British, as equivalent for (rupees) one crore of indemnity, the hill countries between Beas and Indus; by the second, the British made over to Gulab Singh for (Rupees) 75 lakhs all the hilly or mountainous country situated to the east of Indus and west of Ravi” (i.e. the Vale of Kashmir . Soon after Gulab Singh’s death in 1857, his son, Ranbir Singh.After the Indian Rebellion of 1857, in which Kashmir sided with the British, and the subsequent assumption of direct rule by Great Britain, the princely state of Kashmir came under the paramountcy of the British Crown.

 

 Ranbir Singh’s grandson Hari Singh, who had ascended the throne of Kashmir in 1925, was the reigning monarch in 1947 at the conclusion of British rule of the subcontinent and the subsequent partition of the British Indian Empire into the newly independent Union of India and the Dominion of Pakistan. As parties to the partition process, both countries had agreed that the people or elders of these states will decide to opt for either Pakistan or India keeping in view the geographical position and religious beliefs of the majority of the people or—in special cases—to remain independent. In 1947, Kashmir’s population was 80 per cent Muslim and it shared boundaries with Pakistan and India. Hence, it was anticipated that the Maharaja would accede to Pakistan or India, when the British paramountcy ended on 14-15 August. When he hesitated to do this, a struggle broke out, supported by Pakistan. The Maharaja appealed to Mountbatten for assistance, and the Governor-General agreed on the condition that the ruler accede to India. Once the Maharaja signed the Instrument of Accession, which included a clause added by Mountbatten asking that the wishes of the Kashmiri people be taken into account, Indian soldiers entered Kashmir and drove the Pakistani-sponsored irregulars from all but a small section of the state. India approached the United Nations security council for cease fire and to mediate the quarrel. The UN Security Council passed the resolution that the opinion of Kashmiris must be ascertained. The Indian Prime Minister Jawaharlal Nehru promised a Plebiscite under UN supervision which never happened as one of the pre-conditions for the same was Pakistan should withdraw all Military forces from the region of Kashmir.

 

In the last days of 1948, a ceasefire was agreed under UN auspices; however, since the plebiscite demanded by the UN was never conducted, relations between India and Pakistan soured,and eventually led to two more wars over Kashmir in 1965 and 1999. India has control of about half the area of the former princely state of Jammu and Kashmir; Pakistan controls a third of the region, the Northern Areas and Azad Kashmir. According to Encyclopaedia Britannica, “Although there was a clear Muslim majority in Kashmir before the 1947 partition and its economic, cultural, and geographic contiguity with the Muslim-majority area of the Punjab (in Pakistan) could be convincingly demonstrated, the political developments during and after the partition resulted in a division of the region. Pakistan was left with territory that, although basically Muslim in character, was thinly populated, relatively inaccessible, and economically underdeveloped. The largest Muslim group, situated in the Vale of Kashmir and estimated to number more than half the population of the entire region, lay in Indian-administered territory, with its former outlets via the Jhelum valley route blocked.”

 

 Currently,The region is divided among three countries in a territorial dispute: Pakistan controls the northwest portion (Northern Areas and Azad Kashmir), India controls the central and southern portion (Jammu and Kashmir) and Ladakh, and China controls the northeastern portion (Aksai Chin and the Trans-Karakoram Tract). India also controls the majority of the Siachen Glacier area including the Saltoro Ridge passes), whereas Pakistan controls the lower territory just southwest of the Saltoro Ridge. India controls 101,387 km2 (39,146 sq mi), Pakistan 85,846 km2 (33,145 sq mi) and China, the remaining 37,555 km2 (14,500 sq mi).

 

 

Now, it makes some sense to me as to what is happening in Kashmir today .I am sure most of the people who take this issue as Muslim-fanatic cause, know nothing about what was it that lead to such a pathetic state as of today .I understand that Jammu and Kashmir was purely a political issue, which has turned into a completely religious one in nature over a course of 61 years. I wonder why on earth Hari Singh opted not to join neither India nor Pakistan.. His name will be written in history, in cow dung , for having made a decision that spoiled life of many fellow people, for years ,and many more years to come..

 

Political parties have taken the most of this issue. Religious fanatics too have used the matter to maximum possible extent, to suit their selfish needs.. But in the end, can anybody answer as to who won and who lost..

 

What went wrong in Kashmir is that, we have been looking at the issue as a Hindu vs Muslim. Sadly it is not otherwise, though many religious factors have contributed to make the situation even worse.

 

Don’t mix religion here. This is an issue of redrawing the contours, for the sake of humanity.  This is in no way related to other communal issues moving around ,as like in Nagaland and Assam.The integrity of India cannot be questioned, but Kashmir was never part of India, was it? From very day we gained ‘independence’ there is issues going on in the valley.. Its high time we bring an end to it.

 

As an Indian,I am very much concerned about my nation’s security issues ,once an independent J&K nation is formed.But I believe that India is strong enough to take care of security concerns.But one question is left unanswered;how will the kashmiris survive then?I don’t think Pakistan will care a damn about it.Just for instance,recall what happened during 2005 earthquakes.But then again,they made their own choice and are entitled to deal with the consequences.

 

During partition, people from other states of India joined Indian union out of their own free will. Same right should be extended to Kashmir .Let them decide what they want. Let India not act like America ,withholding somebody else’s land, even when the inhabitants are against themselves being controlled by an ‘external force’ .I had always stood for national interest,and will remain to do so till my last breath. But I just realized that I was concerned about Kashmir, not about Kashmiris. .Don’t they deserve a life ?Or is it destined to be another Isreal-Palastein conflict?

 

 

P.S:

 

Read a Kashmiri writing about the other side of Kashmir http://www.saadat.in/blog

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Biting nails;Biting fungus and dirt!

Posted by Nimmy on August 24, 2008

How many of you bite your nails? Sadly I am an occasional nail-biter.. eeeww,what a name,”nail-biter”. Though not an addict, I am aware of myself having such a disgusting habit. I have seen many people biting nails religiously, with all concentration and content. Just thought of digging more into it and have a random post!

 

Nail biting also known clinically as chronic onychophagia, is a compulsive habit of biting ones fingernails or toenails during periods of nervousness, stress, hunger or even boredom. It can also be a sign of a mental or emotional disorder Nail biting is usually described as a common stress-relieving habit. Nail biting is more common in boys. 

 

 

Nail biting is a common habit that starts from an early age. It occurs in all ages, but the most common age for starting is early teens. Statistic’s show that 28% to 33% of children aged 7-10 years old, 44% of adolescents, 19% to 29% of young adults and 5% of older adults bite their nails. It is most common in boys . The side affects are unattractive and can cause embarrassment, bad grooming, unattractive hands or feet, sores and redness around the area of the nail. In more extreme cases the sufferer would be prone to get mouth infections from bacteria or germs under the nail being transferred from the nail to the mouth, or oral disease’s being transferred into the broken skin around the area of the nail causing infection and swelling.

 

Nail biting according to behavioral psychologists is an operant conditioned habit. This would be a behavior that the person can physically control. As all behavior’s are learned they can be unlearned. Stress is believed to be the culprit in common anxiety outlets. But some researchers believe there’s a genetic component involved, while others claim the habits are learned. Nail biting and hair pulling may trigger calming sensors in the nervous system. Such activities may look painful to an outsider, but children can feel a sense of relief in response to internal nervous-system turmoil.

 

Devoted nail biters can achieve top grades, have satisfying friendships and happily continue their habit into adulthood with no serious consequences other than cosmetic appearance. Parents should consider professional help when a repetitive, self-destructive behavior begins to interfere with normal functioning

 

  

While normally the activity of nail biting would be considered harmless to a person’s health, there are many things that go along with nail biting that can make it a very serious problem. Inflammation of the tissues adjacent to the nail, that is usually accompanied with infection that may cause pus to occur.  Many people who get this type of infection must have surgery to correct the problem. Severe nail biting makes the roots of the teeth in 13-15 year olds shorter due to excess pressure, and also such problems as bleeding cuticles and red, irritated skin.

 

  • “Don’t nag”. This is the first step in dealing with children who display anxious habits such as hair twirling, nail biting or knuckle cracking. A better choice is to offer incentives for stopping or to teach the child an alternative behavior
  • A popular method to stop nail-biting is the Nail File Technique: Buy 50 cheap nail files and scatter them everywhere you work and play. When a rough edge begins to bother you, grab a file and sand the nail smooth. People rarely bite or pick at nails with smooth edges
  •  The best way I know to stop nail-biting, however, is to grow nails and keep them beautiful. It worked for me!
  • Also,everytime you get nails into your mouth,remember that you are gulping tons of fungus,virus,bacteria and what not..***faints***

 

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“Muhammad was a pedophile..”

Posted by Nimmy on August 21, 2008

When I heard this ’statement’ for the first time, I was rather perplexed and annoyed. The next time I heard it, I was sad and frustrated that somebody is talking very rudely, questioning my faith. When I started reading on the matter, I knew this was a ‘new accuse’ to none, but myself .Now that I am convinced of ‘what is it and how is it, I don’t get ‘emotional’ whenever I hear this. To be honest, now I am sick and bored of answering this question/accuse and hence when such a similar stuff came in as a comment to another post, I didn’t bother to answer it as I felt the ‘asker’ was not ‘questioning’, but rather bashing. But since my father insisted on explaining it to those who are interested in reading with an open mind, I am here, telling you what do I think and believe about the above ’statement’.

 

Modern world is not interested in referring to history and context. I wonder why people insist on quoting history back to 132CE and 636 CE, when it comes to matters of Israel-Palastein, while the same people are irritated and annoyed when I quote history back to just 1400 years ago. Those with double standards please don’t read below.

 

Judging yesterday by today’s moral standards is a waste of time. Morality is relative not absolute, it varies from culture to culture and society to society. What is perceived to be moral in USA may not hold to be true in other parts of the world, such as Africa and Asia. Morality is also relative to time, fornication/dating little time ago was regarded as taboo and a matter of shame for the family. However, now this is a common habit, dating could start as early as at the age of 14. Another example would be dress code, which was very modest in history but not so now,which again makes modesty a relative term.

 

 

The criticism of Muhammad’s marriage to Aisha is something relatively new in that it grew up out of the values of “Post Enlightenment” Europe. Certainly, those from a Middle Eastern Semitic background would not have found anything to criticize, since nothing abnormal or immoral took place.  It was European Christians who began to criticize Muhammad on this point, not ones who were in touch with their Semitic roots. I wonder why the people of Quraish and other Arabian tribes at Prophet’s time found absolutely no fault in the marriage. On the contrary it is evident from countless narrations that the marriage was successful. They detested Islam; they did everything to belittle the Prophet, tried to prevent Islam from spreading and even attempted to kill the Prophet! However, they raised no objection to the marriage of the Prophet to Aisha since at those times such a thing was not considered ‘immoral’.

 

 

It is upon reaching the age of puberty that a person, man or woman, becomes legally responsible under Islamic Law.  At this point, they are allowed to make their own decisions and are held accountable for their actions.  It should also be mentioned that in Islam, it is unlawful to force someone to marry someone that they do not want to marry.  The evidence shows that Aisha’s marriage to the Prophet Muhammad was one which both parties and their families agreed upon.The marriage also strengthened the relationship between Abu Bakr and Prophet Muhammed. In addition, Aisha (RA) was exceedingly intelligent and had a formidable memory. She had profound knowledge of Quran and Sunnah.She narrated over 2,000 hadith (at least 2,210).

 

 

Girls were not given in Marriage until after menstruation. And It was also common among all peoples of that era to marry young girls. It should be noted that the Prophet Muhammed first married a widow woman who was much older than him. And he didn’t take another wife until after her death. There seems to be a lot of propaganda concerning the marital status of the Prophet Mohamed and his wives. Don’t you people remember King Solomon and his Hundreds of wives and So called concubines? There were no Limits on how many women men would take. Only when Islam came did Allah send down a commandment limiting wives to 4 and only if you could be fair with them.

 

 

Hear it from a Christian friend of mine:

 

 “In the present standard he was a pervert. But during his time and in his society he was comparatively a good person, because people were not sparing even their own mother, mother’s sisters, own grown up sisters and other family members. The Prophet had to prevent them from such uncontrolled sexual perversion like animals by introducing provisions into Koran whom to marry and whom not to marry. He had to bring their own tribe to a decent human level with a code of conduct as if it were told by Allah to him.The whole thing has to be seen in its proper context, then only we can properly appreciate”

 

 

 

Overcoming cultural bias or admitting your own double standards is not always easy.  For some people, it takes years for them to admit that they’ve been hypocritical. 

 

 

 

P.S

  • Centuries ago,number of wives were uncountable.Later,it decreased to a countable size.Now it is one(supposedly)..Not too long will it be when your grandkids ask you,”Marriage,what the heck is that.There isn’t a need for getting married”:)
  • We had better taken concern about our morals standards,especially when it comes to that of West,than worrying about what happened 1400 yrs ago.
  • An interesting fact,Lina Medina gave birth at the age of 5 years, 7 months and 21 days. Encyclopaedia Wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lina_Medina ) says:

    “Lina Medina (born September 27, 1933 in Paurange, Peru) gave birth at the age of 5 years, 7 months and 21 days and is the youngest confirmed mother in medical

     

     

 

http://www.answering-christianity.com/aisha.htm

 

http://www.muslim-answers.org/Polemics-Rebuttals/aishah.htm

 

http://www.guidedones.com/metapage/frq/Aisha.htm

 

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