60 ways to keep your husband happy-post revised…

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” If a woman needs to purposely do all this to keep her husband’s love, I think both of them are better of not being married “

End of dicussion..

 

 

p.s:Thanks Bhagwad…

 

 

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How about this one???

60 Ways To Keep Your Wife’s Love

1. Make her feel secure. Allow her to feel the sakeena.
2. Greet her with “As-salaamu-alaikum wa rahmatullah” – this will keep the shaytan out of your home
3. Know your wife is fragile a whistle – take care of this whistle (i.e. treat her in a gentle way)
4. Advice her in privacy and during a loving, romantic and/or peaceful atmosphere
5. Be generous to your wife
6. Give her your space/seat
7. Avoid anger – one way is to keep wudhu at all times, another is to sit down or lie down when angry
8. Looking good, smelling great
9. Dont be rigid or you may get be broken – be good and be flexible
10. Be a good listener
11. Say Yes to flattery, No to arguments
12. Call your wife with the best of names
13. Give her pleasant surprises
14. Preserve the tongue (i.e. don’t say abusive words since some words take years to wipe out)
15. Accept her shortcomings
16. Show her that you appreciate her
17. Encourage her to keep her kin relationships, especially with her mother and father
18. Pick topics of her interest during conversations
19. Show that she is a wonderful wife in front of her relatives (and friends)
20. Give her gifts anytime
21. Get rid of the “rust” (routine of life) once in a while
22. Think good of your wife
23. Overlook any small words or actions that you did not like (i.e. dont save it in your memory)
24. Add a drop of patience every day. Increase this patience during pregnancy and monthly cycle
25. Expect and respect her jealousy
26. Be humble – know that her success at home is your success
27. Dont make your friends happy in lieu of your wife’s happiness
28. Help with housework
29. Dont try to force your wife to love your mother. Help her to respect your mother and father and gradually the love will come
30. Make her feel that she is an ‘ideal’ wife
31. Remember your wife in your du’a
32. Leave the past to Allah (SWT) i.e. don’t dig up past issues.
33. Dont show that you are doing a favor when you do something (e.g. bring food home etc.). Know that Allah (SWT) is the provider and your are only a courier
34. Treat the Shaytan (and not your wife) as your enemy. e.g. when an argument break out know that present is you, your wife and shaytan.
35. Feed your wife with your hands – this is a blessing
36. Look at your wife as a “precious pearl” – so protect her from the envy of the shayateen
37. Show her your “pearls” (smiles) – smiling is like giving a charity
38. Deal with the little things/problems immediately before it becomes a big issues
39. Dont’t be hard or harsh-hearted
40. Respect her thinking and thought
41. Help her to dig within herself to find success
42. Respect the boundries of the intimate relationship
43. Help her take care of your children
44. Give her the gifts of the tongue
45. Sit down and eat meals together with your wife
46. Let her know when you are travelling and the date and time you are coming back (i.e. no surprises)
47. Don’t leave your home to avoid an argument
48. Protect the secrecy and privacy of your home – don’t share it with others
49. Encourage each other in worshiping Allah (SWT) – e.g. prayers, attend lectures, plan to hajj or umrah trip together
50. Know her rights and treat it as something that is engraved in your heart and conscious
51. Live with them with kindness – treat your wife with goodness in prosperity and adversity
52. “Send a messenger” before any intimite relationship (i.e. kissing and sweet words)
53. Don’t share your family problems with others (except when seeking genuine islamic advice)
54. Show that you care for her health
55. Know that you have shortcoming and are not always right
56. Share your happiness and sadness with your wife
57. Have mercy on her weakness
58. Be the “comfortable chest” for her and allow her to lean on you
59. Accept her “as-is”
60. Have a good intention (niyaah) for your wife at all the times

Remember my old post.. How to be a better wife- Do’s and Don’t’s

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  1. ohhh my gwaaad ,If i have to do all this to Keep my wife’s love,then i don’t need her love….Timeout Timeout :D :D

    P.S : well, For me this topic is out of syllabus :D :D

    • okay jokes apart, i have grown up seeing many of these points in my family and in my cousin’s families.Between thank you for sharing it here :D :D ….

  2. LOL… this is the best…… :-)

  3. ROFL :lol:
    What a list Nimmy ;) ;)

  4. :lol:

    What a list!! :P

    will read it now!

    • seems to be u didn’t read it yet :mrgreen: :lol:

  5. Whoa!
    Points noted :)
    But whats with this 60 fixation? Am sure there are more to women :P

  6. ha ha ha…men out there r going to go bonkers…lol
    try out guys…lets see how many men get through

  7. When I read your post name I thought my next was going to be “How to keep your wife happy?” Ha ha ha Nimmy, loved this one :lol:

    You made up for the glaring lack of advice for husbands in our society :) Good one!!!

  8. LOL! a truly wonderful list! Among the multitudes of lists advising woman and poking fun at them, this one is a fresh breather!

    You have a great blog out here and I really like the way you write. Bookmarked :)

    • Nimmy
    • October 13th, 2009

    @Anish..ha ha,your comment made my day.. After reading your comment,i went back and checked to see what have you said in the first post… Well,thankfully,for you,you haven’t said anything.. If you had said “Good” for that post and “bad” for this one,i would ahve smacked you ;-)

    @Oorja .. :) thanks for coming buddy..

    @Swaram.. ;-)

    @Praven..lol,it will take a man, a lifetime to fulfill this 60 points alone,forget the rest :)

    @IHM … ;-) Thanks for making my day by pointing me to blogadda..I am indeed honoured.. ((hugs))

    @Espirit..Welcome here :) Thanks a lot for your words and do come again..

    Good day to all..

    p.s: Damn,this wordpress is not letting me edit comments from dashboard,since days..Can anybody help me..I can’t find any help in wordpress forums..This is depressing to answer to comments this way :-(

  9. ahhhmmmm(in jayan style :) ) :D :D :D

    • Nu
    • October 13th, 2009

    Hey did my comment not get submitted or you missed it ? wondering…

  10. Between you are my Blog dronacharaya :D :D(though i’m not posting any useful/meaningful post now a days ,due to lack of time to read and research :( ) .So i will never dishonor U here or anywhere :D …escapeeeeeeeeee :D :D

    P.S : Between hope U know ekalavyan-drnoacharya story :)

  11. I have read this :D :D

    all are valid points… will keep in mind(or refer :D) when I get into marriage :) :)

  12. People are doing all kinds of research aren’t they? I got this as a forward mail a few times but the simple fact that people differ in their likes and dislikes are missed by all. Anyway its the first time I ve read all these points and lemme try a few of them myself ;)

  13. Good to read the other side! You know whenever I get a forward or something which pokes fun at women, I simply change the gender and send it off, and it reads fine! :)

  14. Maybe a footnote as follows may help understand better;
    1. This is not an exhaustive list. Doing all the above may improve your chances but doing just some of them may be seen as a dumb ploy.

    Nice post! Congrats for being featured in Blogadda’s picks!

  15. Loved this with a toungue in cheek:)

    I would substitue the word wife with spouse:) what say?

  16. Good advice but some not relevant in modern times.Nimmy why cant you modify and publish an updated version suitable for working couples of our times.

    • @Anish.. ha ha ha ha (gabbar sigh stlye ;-) )
      @Nu,I enevr delete any comments,no matter how abusive they are..I haven’t deleted any comment of yours :) Do say it again..

      @anish..lol.i am such a poor irregular guru..

      @Scorpio..Good luck :)

      @Nits.. :) (((hugs))))

      @Gopinath,welcome to my space :) Your comment made me have a gulp,honeslty :).. Do come again

      @Amtarman,welcome here :) Yup,the word spouse is more apt..Do come again ..

      @Charakan..I don’t have any such experience,so i don’t know.. Maybe i can write such a post after Dec 7th :)

    • Nu
    • October 28th, 2009

    long time no see, all well ?

  1. October 13th, 2009
  2. October 16th, 2009

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