My Favorite Posts ..

Hi all,I just wanted to list out my favorite posts, just in case anybody would find them interesting and useful.Do go through them when you get time and keep sharing your thoughts .

Eazy Cooking!!

1. Its a Pizza-a stove-top Pizza!!
2. Tapiki ‘n’ Fish curry-the official food of kerala???
3. Roll it all the way into your mouth!!
4. Moringa/Drumstick Fry
5. Fish Thoran
6. Quick Vegetable Biryani
7. “Pizza Dosa” or “Dosa Pizza”??
8. Date ‘n’ Choco Fudge in 10 minutes
9. Sprouted Green Gram/Cherupayar Thoran

Womanly-thoughts

1. “Why do muslim women have to beg for their rights?”
2. Do feminists ruin families?
3. Why/why not should women dress modestly/provocatively?
4. How easy is it to undergo a divorce?
5. Feminism Tag..but Am I a feminist?
6. How do we program the baby machine to output baby boys alone?
7. How important is it for you,to remain faithful in your marriage?
8. Winning the war-through women..
9. How do I make his beard catch fire?
10. Why are women enemies to each other?

Islamic Thoughts

1. “No time to complain, time to be wise”
2. “Slay all infidels”..Wow,is Quran so violent???
3. “How do you, as Muslim, see me and others like me in the light of the teachings of the Qur’an?”
4. War ethics ‘n’ rules in Islam..
5. Am I,as a muslim,responsible for the acts of others muslims who interpret Quran wrongly & move around with bombs?
6. The drama of divorce over phone,email and SMS..
7. One Quran,but infinite interpretations..WHY?
8. Living Ramdan,the Islamic way..
9. “Muhammad was a pedophile..”
10. Quran asks men to beat their wife!!
11. Is this what Islamic polygamy is all about?
12. Muslims hate Jews??????????
13. Remembering Prophet Muhammad (and his multiple wives) on his birthday
14. Stoning to death-How and Why is it a part of Islam?
15. Fatwa Drama-Behind the curtain..
16. Worship in space!

World Around

1. Pragmatics between moral police and one’s freedom of expression
2. Why does Government push Hajj subsidy down the throats of Indian muslims?
3. Migrant issues – Qatar and Maharashtra,a comparison.
4. History of Israel-Palestein conflict -as and how lightly my small brain process it.
5. What went wrong with Pakistan as a nation?
6. Why isn’t this ‘terrorism’, but just ‘communal-issues’?
7. The unholy secrets and not-so-divine divinity of the church..
8. Who decides the fine line between absolute and relative freedom of expression?
9. What have you done so far,as to wipe out the menace of terrorism?

Random Rants

1. Disclaimer..
2. My lovely garden
3. Holding hands..for a lifetime.
4. How do I control my anger before it controls me..
5. Smile Pinki.. bringing smile to thousands of kids with cleft lips..
6. Tagged – Soft,Melodious and Soulful songs..
7. Tag-on various bits of my life…

Science

1. The Weight Of The Human Soul
2. Will your body decay if you RIP while in outer space?
3. How much water would it take to extinguish the sun?
4. “Diamond is forever”…Oh no…Its NOT…
5. Biting nails;Biting fungus and dirt!
6. Rate your fear of intimacy
7. How do blind people dream?

Good day to all..

Public Display of Affection-How much is too much

Toady, I read an elaborate article and slideshow on Obamas PDA(public Disply of Affection)..Oh well,honestly speaking,I felt so good and happy for them as a wife and husband..The joy,the love,its all visible in their eyes when they look into each others eyes..The way they seem to listen to each other,the way they danced..I just loved it.One cannot fake such emotions on every occasion,so to me,they truly seem to be in love with each other..Good luck to Obamas and me too..lol…

 

This made me think on how much or to which extent in PDA acceptable in India..Lol,I just knew that PDA is banned or unacceptable in India,by the Supreme court of Justice.Well,this is a two year old news and it is my problem that I didn’t read it and hence reacting late..Please bear with me .

So what is wrong with displaying one’s love towards the partner.If you don’t like it,just don’t look at it,isn’t it as simple as that..??I am not talking about those high volatge acts like french kissing and stuff on streets..No sane person would do that.Apart from that,what is wrong in holding hands,or small small hugs doesn’t do any harm,do they?I know that I sound dumb by sayign this because ‘right’ is subjective and people are always keen to push forward the ‘limits’..But we are being too rigid by looking down at people who just hold hands and walk or maybe give a sponatenous kiss or hug..Afterall,it all happens just like that and we can’t just blame them for it.

 

In my class,we had a few ‘couples’ who were deeeeply in love(interstingly,they all married somebody else later in life…aggrrrh) ..For every break we had,these three sets would come on to behind the last row of benches and would start these acts of PDA..Sorry guys,no offence meant,but it was all disguting ..I never(read not often) stared at them to avoid myself getting embarassed,but few times I saw them putting hands into each others dress,the girl playing with guy’s shirts buttons,the guy playing with her hair,hell it was all embarrassing that we all girls would not dare to sit inside the classroom during lunch break.Since I was a chota neta then,all girls asked me to talk to these couples and ask them to keep limits as their acts were gaining popularity within the college and thereby making our class famous(read infamous) It was the most embarassing moment of my life when I asked them(all of them my best friends) to ‘Pls take care because we few fellow beings are sitting here..’..ROFL I can’t believe now that I did this.Nevermind,my point is,the problem with their PDA was that they didn’t know how and where to keep limits and hence their acts of love or care became disgusting in our eyes..

Of course it is not a personal business and hence the name public display of affection.Neverthless,I would have felt great for them if they had just held hands or have an occassional hug or like stuff..But acting like a wife and husband as in a bedroom,doing it in classroom because of lack of space in not at all acceptable.To those who would complain ,I used to tell that  ‘They are in love,so it doesn’t matter’..But how real and how practical was my answer ..I have doubts now.What do you think on ‘How much is too much’??

 

Good day to all..

Back at home back home..

Phew..that was a tiring and exhaustive journey.. But yes, I am glad I am back- to the place where I feel more comfortable. Life here is confined to two rooms.. Still I enjoy more freedom and individuality here, than back in my homeland. I am obviously not an introvert who tries to run away from people, but I prefer and respect the ‘give and take’ of personal space—which is an unheard concept back home. Whatever, I hope life moves on smoothly.

 

I don’t have a bunch of dreams, except a long cherished one of being a career woman, who wears a neatly ironed cotton saree..lol.. Wonder why I wanna wear cotton saree.. As of today,I  have kept aside my dream for a better tomorrow and I am enjoying and finding content in what I am as of today ..I just hope and pray that I live in peace ,anyday-anytime.

 

Its been two days that I’ve been back to blogoshpere .. While away from the virtual life,many a times,I thought of all my dear friends here..I would think of what you all would be blogging about,until the sad incident in Mumbai happened..then,I know what my fellow friends would be talking about.I am relieved that I wasn’t aware of all what happened during those days as I was not in touch with newspapers or television..I am relieved that I didn’t have to write on the heartbreaking and frightening session..My mind is too overloaded to talk on all that happened..Escapism is the easy way out..

 

Its winter time here..Temperature is about 23-22 C,but to me,its like -12 C..I am feeling so cold…grr..My kitchen tap doesn’t give me hot water and hence I hate the whole thought of going into kitchen and coooking.But hmm..it should happen as my stomach keeping on crying for food every now and then..

 

It rained heavily yesterday..For the first time in my life,I was feeling so insensitive about rain..All my life,I had loved and cherished almost all raindrops,that fell down my body and soul..Raindrops used to tell me lot of stories on love, pain, anticipation, sorrow and much more..I used to feel the rain, rather than just watching it..But yesterday,it was just drops of water that fell down my courtyard.. and I am feeling so bad about it..I wish this insensitivity is for the first and last time.

 

Its Eid ul Adha tomorrow..This is no time to celebrate or use crackers…I read a news on Dar-ul-Uloom  suggesting to Muslims in the country that they avoid slaughtering cows on Eid-ul-Azha as a mark  of respect to the religious beliefs of Hindus. Indeed a great thought,that too from a conservative group. Islamic clerics have joined hands on ‘no cow slaughter’ this Bakr Eid..I hope every Indian muslim understands the need of the hour and act accordingly.

 

My heartfelt Eid greetings to all you out there.. Muslims have just two festivals a year. Eid is indeed special to them..But remember the right spirit of this Eid-Eid ul Adha is the Festival of sacrifice.. I needn’t say more on what is the need for it as of this moment. Sacrifice a special day’s happiness, in the remembrance of those lives.. It could have been you or me.. Lets join hands and stand together for a cause..

 

Good day

 

 

 

 

p.s :There may be lot of spelling and grammatical mistakes..Please pardon..

 

 

What’s up with ‘Holding Hands’ all of a sudden!!!

Something interesting happening these days..

Lot of incoming Google searches on “holding hands” since last 2-3 days..Just see the pattern of search words..indeed interesting ..

21/10/08

Search	Views
holding hands	64
nimmy wordpress	6
hold hands	3
people holding hands	3
hands	3
holding	3
halding hands	2
pictures of holding hands	2
holding hands.	2
meaning holding hands intimacy	1

Title	Views
Holding hands..for a lifetime.	99
Indian Economy-What’s happening inside?	12
“How do you, as Muslim, see me and other	8
“Husband seeks divorce as wife loses Rs	4
Fatwa Drama-Behind the curtain..	3
About	2
A Picture..a heartfelt one.	2
How do we program the baby machine to ou	2
How important is it for you,to remain fa	1
Coconut Peda	1
How do I control my anger before it cont	1

 

20/10/08

Search	Views
holding hands	98
hold hands	13
nimmy wordpress	7
holding hand	4
sprouted grams	2
nimmy	1
viruses from biting nails	1
hands holding hands	1
intimacy of holding hands	1
holding hands in heaven	1
quran calls for death to infidels	1
pictures of holding hands	1
i will always be happy holding hands	1
involuntary hand holding	1
2 men holding hands	1
raj thackeray’s issues,conclusion	1
hands doing friendship	1

Title	Views
Holding hands..for a lifetime.	146
Fatwa Drama-Behind the curtain..	25
Indian Economy-What’s happening inside?	15
A Picture..a heartfelt one.	14
“Husband seeks divorce as wife loses Rs	7
How do we program the baby machine to ou	5
Sprouted Green Gram/Cherupayar Thoran	3
Biting nails;Biting fungus and dirt!	1
Beyond ‘Start-Camera-Action’	1
“Girl, mistaken for Christian, gangraped	1
“Slay all infidels”..Wow,is Quran so vio	1

19/10/08

Search	Views
holding hands	34
hold hands	2
holding hand	2
meaning of holding hands	1
nutritive value for sprouted green gram	1
holding hands with a same sex friend	1
hold hands asian	1
nimmy wordpress	1
cook moringa drumstick	1

Title	Views
Holding hands..for a lifetime.	48
A Picture..a heartfelt one.	22
“Husband seeks divorce as wife loses Rs	12
Fatwa Drama-Behind the curtain..	11
How do we program the baby machine to ou	8
“Muhammad was a pedophile..”	2
How important is it for you,to remain fa	2
Moringa/Drumstick Fry	1
Sprouted Green Gram/Cherupayar Thoran	1

I guess somebody in some corner of thw world has got an assignment or project on “Holding Hands..”..lol..I am glad my post is of some productive use..But sadly,not even a single comment

I always wonder why there happens a large difference between visits and comments..Guess people are lazy…I just love getting comments…

**sigh**

Holding hands..for a lifetime.

A re-post..This earlier post of mine is the most read,search engine queried one till date..I am glad more n more people are trying to hold hands

 

“The spaces between your fingers were created so that another’s could fill them in”.This quote had always remained my favorite.Ever wondered about the depth of message they convey!

 

To hold someone’s hand is to offer them affection,protection or comfort.It is a way to communicate and telling them silently “I am here,with you..”Holding hands remains a sign of intimacy between friends and lovers,couples and family,keeping two people together as they navigate the world around them.People hold hands for several reasons such as; a gesture of friendship ,or of love;acknowledgment of one’s presence or as sign of respect as in a handshake;a part of religious service or ritual;to enjoy physical contact;for emotional support;to guide ,as with a child , a blind person ,or an elderly;to urge someone to follow,to dance and on many more instances..

 

The symbolic meaning of holding hands varies for different cultures and gender. A personal relationship that does not involve any sexual behavior, e.g. friendship, may also involve physical intimacy.  In western culture it is often more among female than among male friends; the latter may want to avoid associations with  homosexuality. In other cultures, such as Arab culture, men may hold hands with no implication of homosexuality.Many East Asian cultures typically encourage relatively little body contact between friends, acquaintances, and members of the same sex. Even among family members and spouses, traditionally, there are fewer public displays of affection.

 

A man and a woman who are friends may avoid physical intimacy to avoid associations with sexuality or emotional intimacy, in order not to appear to be in a relationship. This is especially true if one or both of them is already in a relationship with another person.

 

Physical closeness may also be involuntary, as in a crowded train or elevator.Every touch is not with sexual intention.I wonder why some people seem to view the world only through their own glasses.That’s gross.

 

Hand holding depends on the relationship established with the person whose hand is being held and their willingness to accept the intended gesture based upon their understanding of its origin and significance.Some people are more into public displays of affection than others,as some avoid much touching in public and will avoid it for their own reasons,even if they are quite intimate and loving in private.Sometimes,holding hands can be an aggressive gesture of sign of control or dominance in a relationship.If a man grabs a woman’s hands and drags her along behind him,this may not be a much of gesture of closeness,but a gesture of dominance..

 

To add,the dream interpretation of ‘holding hands’ is given as “Holding hands or other positive interaction with hands can represent good will or affection that you feel towards someone, that you believe someone feels towards you, or you wish you were receiving.”

 

Nonsexual touch and other signs of affection strengthens your marriage relationships,creating a comforting and calming atmosphere in your home,builds more trust between the two of you,and deepens your intimacy with one another.A research of 16 marrried woemn who scored high on marriage-satisfaction inventory showed that simply holding their husband’s hand eased both physical sign of stress and their brain’s responses to pain.For all these reasons,I love to hold my husband’s hands when we go outside.I feel a feel of security and comfort.(but I think he is bit embarassed about it).Holding your parents hands when they are in stress will do wonders on relieving their stress.Hold your sister’s or brother’s hands when you cross road,see them smile at you lovingly and read their eyes telling you “Thank you for being there”.During college days,I had many many friends whom I could hold hands and could lean upon their shoulders and take a deep breath to hear their heart’s wishper “I am here for you Nimmy”..Those moments are treasured deep inside my heart and nothing on earth and heaven above can take its place..

 

When was it the last time you held you dear ones hands and said silently “I care for you,and I am here for you no matter what”.Time will not wait for me and you.Before you lose your loved ones,tell them how much they mean to you and make yours and theirs day a wonderful one.Good luck!!

 

 

p.s :I didn’t take these pictures.I got it from internet,a few months ago and saved it randomly,forgetting to save the source.I cannot link to it since the source is not available now,even after hours of search..I apologize to the creator for not acknowledging your work..Thanks and sorry..