Holding hands..for a lifetime.

A re-post..This earlier post of mine is the most read,search engine queried one till date..I am glad more n more people are trying to hold hands 🙂

 

“The spaces between your fingers were created so that another’s could fill them in”.This quote had always remained my favorite.Ever wondered about the depth of message they convey!

 

To hold someone’s hand is to offer them affection,protection or comfort.It is a way to communicate and telling them silently “I am here,with you..”Holding hands remains a sign of intimacy between friends and lovers,couples and family,keeping two people together as they navigate the world around them.People hold hands for several reasons such as; a gesture of friendship ,or of love;acknowledgment of one’s presence or as sign of respect as in a handshake;a part of religious service or ritual;to enjoy physical contact;for emotional support;to guide ,as with a child , a blind person ,or an elderly;to urge someone to follow,to dance and on many more instances..

 

The symbolic meaning of holding hands varies for different cultures and gender. A personal relationship that does not involve any sexual behavior, e.g. friendship, may also involve physical intimacy.  In western culture it is often more among female than among male friends; the latter may want to avoid associations with  homosexuality. In other cultures, such as Arab culture, men may hold hands with no implication of homosexuality.Many East Asian cultures typically encourage relatively little body contact between friends, acquaintances, and members of the same sex. Even among family members and spouses, traditionally, there are fewer public displays of affection.

 

A man and a woman who are friends may avoid physical intimacy to avoid associations with sexuality or emotional intimacy, in order not to appear to be in a relationship. This is especially true if one or both of them is already in a relationship with another person.

 

Physical closeness may also be involuntary, as in a crowded train or elevator.Every touch is not with sexual intention.I wonder why some people seem to view the world only through their own glasses.That’s gross.

 

Hand holding depends on the relationship established with the person whose hand is being held and their willingness to accept the intended gesture based upon their understanding of its origin and significance.Some people are more into public displays of affection than others,as some avoid much touching in public and will avoid it for their own reasons,even if they are quite intimate and loving in private.Sometimes,holding hands can be an aggressive gesture of sign of control or dominance in a relationship.If a man grabs a woman’s hands and drags her along behind him,this may not be a much of gesture of closeness,but a gesture of dominance..

 

To add,the dream interpretation of ‘holding hands’ is given as “Holding hands or other positive interaction with hands can represent good will or affection that you feel towards someone, that you believe someone feels towards you, or you wish you were receiving.”

 

Nonsexual touch and other signs of affection strengthens your marriage relationships,creating a comforting and calming atmosphere in your home,builds more trust between the two of you,and deepens your intimacy with one another.A research of 16 marrried woemn who scored high on marriage-satisfaction inventory showed that simply holding their husband’s hand eased both physical sign of stress and their brain’s responses to pain.For all these reasons,I love to hold my husband’s hands when we go outside.I feel a feel of security and comfort.(but I think he is bit embarassed about it).Holding your parents hands when they are in stress will do wonders on relieving their stress.Hold your sister’s or brother’s hands when you cross road,see them smile at you lovingly and read their eyes telling you “Thank you for being there”.During college days,I had many many friends whom I could hold hands and could lean upon their shoulders and take a deep breath to hear their heart’s wishper “I am here for you Nimmy”..Those moments are treasured deep inside my heart and nothing on earth and heaven above can take its place..

 

When was it the last time you held you dear ones hands and said silently “I care for you,and I am here for you no matter what”.Time will not wait for me and you.Before you lose your loved ones,tell them how much they mean to you and make yours and theirs day a wonderful one.Good luck!!

 

 

p.s :I didn’t take these pictures.I got it from internet,a few months ago and saved it randomly,forgetting to save the source.I cannot link to it since the source is not available now,even after hours of search..I apologize to the creator for not acknowledging your work..Thanks and sorry..

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  1. Hi Nimmy,
    Thank you for reposting this. This is a very good one.
    But the last time I held the hand of one of my loved one’s (girl friend’s), my wife wasn’t too happy… 🙂
    Cheers,

    • Nimmy
    • October 8th, 2008

    Salil..ha ha ha..lol…If i was your wife i’ld have banged you with rod 😉

  2. Very sweet 🙂

  3. 🙂

    • Nimmy
    • October 8th, 2008

    Thanks IHM and Cris 🙂

  4. My first visit to your blog and Im glad I read such a sweet post 🙂

    It indeed is a wonderful feeling and one misses it so badly when it is suddenly deprived of.

    Have u seen Wall-E ? The movie holds a lot of relevance with this hand halding post of yours.

    Keep writing and see you around.

    • Nimmy
    • October 9th, 2008

    Hi Vimal,welcome 🙂

    Thanks for your words..Keep coming..

  5. very nice post. glad i read the whole piece.

    🙂

    A

  6. Agree with Vimal
    Watch Wall-E 🙂

    • Nimmy
    • October 17th, 2008

    Thanks A (interesting name ) and Khalil 🙂

    Will try to watch Wall-E

    Do come again 🙂 Good day

  7. Nice post..

    Like you.. my wife too love holding my hand wen we are outside.. and I do feel embarrased..dont knw why… I dont like PDA.

    but i do hold her hand to help her crossing a road 😛

    🙂

    • Nimmy
    • October 21st, 2008

    lol…thanks Sharad..Men are all same i guess.. Its not public display of affection..I don’t know,bu i agree there is such a prespective too..But for women i guess its more of feel of security and being calm while in crowd..You and my husband feel embarassed bcoz our culture is so and we say “oh,they came from US direct flight”..when we see others doing this on streets..lol… Atleast hold hands when you both are in a park..Touch is the most blessed sense of emotion.. 🙂

  8. 🙂 I do hold her hands… my wife wont leave me…she makes me do it 😛 hehehehe

    I know touch is most blessed sense… njying it alot 🙂 hehehehe

    • Kate
    • December 16th, 2008

    What a wonderful post! I was looking for an image of people holding hands for my friend who is facing a difficult surgery tomorrow … what a great surprise to find with your words and pictures! I have always loved holding hands and miss it incredibly. I did not remember how precious touching is, to be able to interlock fingers with a special friend, the feeling of safety, of security, of closeness, till your post reminded me. Thank you so much for this journey into the heart.


    Thanks for your words Kate 🙂 Yeah,I wrote that post in the intial days of blogging..Holding hands is a great feeling and thatz why it happened to be one of the intial posts i wrote with lot of love and passion..Keep coming and Good day-Nimmy

  9. When a three month old baby holds your finger, without even realizing and in a spontaneous act, the way you feel cannot described by words. So, I guess this is programmed into us as a sign of showing intimacy towards another.

    Destination Infinity

    • marie
    • January 4th, 2009

    hi this is really random but I was just wondering where you got the black and white photo of the couple holding hands?

    🙂 hi Marie..Thanks for asking..This picture is not mine..This post was written many months back,before I was aware about linking sources..Later,when i checked for the source to link,it is not available,even after hours of search..Is this your picture? I apologize and give all credit to the person who created this..I have acknowledged this in my post..If i should remove,pls telll .Good day -Nimmy

    • Marie
    • January 6th, 2009

    Hi!!! Actually it is a very interesting story see I am a senior in high school now and when I was a freshman I was at Oak Street Beach in Laguna Beach CA. I had one of my friends take this picture of my boyfriend and I holding hands who I have now been with for 4 years. I wanted her to take this picture so I could use it on the cover of a surprise scrap book I was making him. The strange think behind all of this was I had her take the picture on a disposable camera and when I went to pick of the pictures from getting developed this picture was missing. You know when you get pictures developed the people developing them can see your pictures so I am think that they really liked this picture and took it. (I take it was a complement really) hahah. But anyways one day for no reason at all I decided to search “Holding Hands” in Google and there was this picture which led me to your site. It was amazing to me how I just knew that was my boyfriend of 4 years hand and my hand in front of that same beach I love to go to. Well I just wanted to share that because I thought it was interesting. And you can absolutely keep this picture on the site I love seeing it!!!

    🙂 Thanks for sharing Marie..now,i am feeling so happy that you have got back your dearest image.Good day and Good luck..-Nimmy

    • Ziik
    • April 21st, 2009

    This blog was wonderful! It really opened my eyes to the true meaning of hand holding. I found it very insightful, but I’m still a bit confused about my latest experience with hand holding. I am a female, and there is this guy I know, a close friend of mine whom I am deeply in love with. We held hands at a dance that we both attended, not too long ago, and I am still wondering what could be the possible meaning of it…

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