An attempt to learn something new..and share something different

Numerous scientific studies being conducted worldwide today link a mother’s diet to the sex of the child. These studies talk about high calorie diets that ‘boost’ chances of a baby boy; mete out advice for wannabe mums: cereals for a boy, diet for a girl! Are we still obsessed with having a male child?

 

They reflect the age-old desire, rather, obsession, for the male child not only in India but in the West too. Yes, astonishing as it may sound, an increasing number of studies are being conducted worldwide that advise mothers-to-be on diets and practices to be followed for a baby boy. (more..)

Yeah,again an age old topic which has been talked about again and again and again..But when I read this article yesterday,some interesting points kept bothering me..

A glimpse at the census figures shows a dwindling sex ratio in the country. The number of girls for every 1,000 boys in India has fallen to 927 in 2001 from 962 in 1981. In some states the men have to look elsewhere for brides.

 

In India, we have many reasons for this Boy-syndrome.The practice is particularly difficult to stop because families’ preference for boys has deep cultural roots: Boys don’t require dowries, they stay home after they get married, and they’re allowed to light their parents’ funeral pyres..When boys ‘repay’ the resources the take up till adulhood  and as they stay back and look after the parents during their old age..So basically,producing a boy is a long term investment.Wheres all resources spent on a girl is a profitable investment..Moreover,one needs to spent hell lot of money in the form of dowry..So obviously,having a boy is a double bonaza-he puts in his own money and brings money from somebody else’s purse too.Another factor,male child helps retain family name for long and long and long.Once you have a boy,you are relieved and you pass on the burden of passing the baton onto his shoulders..

Around me, I have seen many instances,where the lady doesn’t want a third kid,but people around her,sick syndrome people around her,force her to have a third baby..WHY?Because she is ‘infortunate’ to have two daughters,and hence she SHOULD try a ‘better’ luck third time..If she have a daughter again,she is doomed for ever,especially if in a joint family..I still remember people,especially women folks,sighing and ranting “Oh,poor she..Girl again”..When I phoned them to congratulate on birth of baby,many of them were like mourning..What the hell…I felt really bad,for I am too to hear this phase if I am ‘doomed’ to have girls alone.This happened in a urban society,so it will be great if we don’t make comments as “This happens is rural areas only”..The more urbanized,the more female unfriendly it becomes..The least number of females happen to be in Delhi and Mumbai(refer source)..Are they rural undeveloped,uneducated areas?

Many of them tell me things will change in course of time..I don’t see anything changing..Oh yeah,its changing,in the reverse direction..More educated the girl is,the more dowry she ought to pay..Dowry is an evil that exists due to WOMEN themselves..Many girls eye on more gold and money given by father during wedding..I always felt ashamed to take so much of gold and money from my father..As a parent,he has done his duties well by educating me and providing me a good environment to grow mentally and healthy..Once I am an adult,it is my turn to work and make money myself,if it matters.Leaving aside the rant,girls even today just add a extra expenditure on to the family.So again,boys are preferred.

Let us not talk about female infanticide,those jelly blob that go down the drain..I gulped that rant..Maybe women themselves do it as to avoided being ‘doomed’ as referred to above..

We are so bothered about preserving our culture..We need boys to light our dead body,and thus go to heaven.As far as I now,both Hindus and Muslims don’t permit girls to take part in funeral (Muslims women can’t go to masjid,where the body is buried,Hindu women can’t light the fire right?)So,for our after-life serenity,which daughter can’t contribute to,we prefer boys..

Having ranted all this,let’s look into how long this baton of extending culture and family name for long and long will happen in practical sense..According to 2001 census,except in Kerala(wow!),for every 1000 males,there are lesser females..Look into the source for details.. As per 2001,we have 933 women for 1000 men.What do you think these 67 men in 1000 will do?We have a ‘small’ population of 1,027,015,247

·       Males          531,277,078
Females      495,738,169

So,what do you think these surplus 3,55,38,909 men will do?That isn’t a ‘negligibly small’ number,is it?

Assuming that 50 lakh men out of 3.5 crore will turn saints,let us talk about rest of 3 crore alone..

People still go out of the country in search of jobs..Let us assume that 1 crore men from the rest will marry women from those foreign places,don’t blame them..They have no balance brides here in India..So,that makes 1 crore foreign daughter-in-laws integrated to so-called precious culture of our nation ..Some of  these males born out of baby boy-syndrome may fall in this category and I am glad that their add value to their parents cultural roots..I am not being too optimistic ,but i hope we’ll have as many as possible cultural cross connection as to add value to our those parents culture. 🙄

Ok,now deal with 2 crore men..They are too narrow minded to marry out of race and they can’t become saints either..What do you think these 2 crore men will do..?I am waiting for my dear readers to give me an answer..

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I hope people will realize some day that it is not the sex,but the health and long life of new born baby that matters..**sigh***