Posts Tagged ‘ hijab ’

Expecting the wife or her guardian to provide the dowry or accommodation is a custom that is contrary to sharee‘ah

A fatwa,issued from the supreme council of Islam,Saudi Arabia..

Question :

Its been a customary practice in my locality that during the time of marriage the girls parents build a house for their daughter and that both couples may live in that house.But in future if any problem occurs between husband and wife then the wife could still have her house while the male has no right to claim the house.This system was made lawful in my place to give security for females.

Now that am going to be engaged my Dad said that the fiancee’s family haven’t built a house yet.And dad fears that the fiancee’s parents haven’t come up with good security even for their daughter and he fears in future I might not get a good security from them as well.And dad said he will ask them for the house for both(me and fiancee) to live in.

I said since it is the husband who should give security to his spouse then it is not necessary for the fiancee’s parents to build the house.But i also said if they build it without our own demand let us take it and i said that after reading the following verse of the quran from surah Nisa 004.004 And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, Take it and enjoy it with right good cheer.

But in my situation I fear falling into dowry.Please sheikh kindly clear this doubt.Under the circumstance i have said is it right of my father to ask the fiancee’s parents to build the house for the girl so that we both can live in it?

Please reply shiekh for a long time i haven’t got any reply from u. But Allah knows hw busy u are.But please take some time to clear this for me.

Answer(Fatwa) :

Praise be to Allaah.

The dowry (mahr) is a right that the wife has over her husband, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allaah has made it lawful)”

[al-Nisa’ 4:4].

Al-Tabari (may Allah have mercy on him) said: What Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, meant by that is: Give the women their dowries as a gift that is required and obligatory.

And he said: It was narrated that Qataadah said, concerning the words “And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart”: As an obligation. And it was narrated that Ibn Jurayj said concerning the words “And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart”: As an obligation that is named (specified). And it was narrated that Ibn Zayd said concerning the words “And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart”: al-nihlah (translated here as “with a good heart”, in the language of the Arabs, refers to something that is obligatory.

End quote from Tafseer al-Tabari, 4/241.

So it is not permissible to force the wife or her guardian to provide it, but if the wife takes it and then gives some of it to her husband or gives some of her wealth to him, it is permissible to her to do that, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allaah has made it lawful)”[al-Nisa’ 4:4].

Accommodation is also a right that the wife has over her husband, so he is obliged to provide her with separate accommodation according to his ability; that is part of the maintenance that he is obliged to provide. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Lodge them (divorced women) where you dwell, according to your means” [al-Talaaq 65:6]. If this applies in the case of a woman who is divorced, then providing accommodation for a woman who is still married is more appropriate. Moreover, Allah has enjoined kind treatment between spouses, as stated above. Part of the kind treatment that is enjoined is providing her with accommodation in which she and her wealth will be safe. The wife cannot do without accommodation in order to conceal her from people looking at her and so that she can settle down with her belongings. Hence accommodation is a right that she has over her husband.

The same may be said about accommodation as may be said about the dowry: it is not permissible to force the wife or her guardian to provide it.

Based on that, if the wife does not give accommodation, there is no room for demanding it from her. You should explain that to your father and not go along with the custom that is contrary to sharee‘ah. Allah has made the man the protector and maintainer of the woman, and one of the reasons for that is that he spends on her.

Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means” [al-Nisa’ 4:34].

See also the answer to question no. 45527.

And Allah knows best.

Source :

@ Indian Muslims,shame on you…I am 99.9% sure that even the suprememost Muftis and so-called champions of Islam was,is and will be religiously following the evil of dowry,all in the holy name of culture..But when it comes to other areas,like following culture as to chooce women’s attire,they turn away their face against  the very same culture..Then they are bothered about living in India,but following Saudi’s black gown.But for dowry,they are happy and do insisit on living in India and not following Saudi’s (muslims world’s in general) custom of not taking (grabbing) dowry,but instead give meher to wife.

I used to wonder watching the difference between Indian muslims and Arabian muslims(whome I have interacted with closely) ,in their attitude towards born girls and boys..For them, boys means expenditure and girls means revenue…

Image :

If you can wear bikni,why can’t I wear burqa?

Belgium votes to ban burqa in public

BRUSSELS: Belgium became Europe’s first country to vote for a ban on the full Islamic veil or burqa, sparking dismay among Muslims and warnings of a dangerous precedent with France set to follow suit.

On Thursday night, barring two abstentions, all 136 legislators of the lower house of the Belgian federal parliament supported a nationwide ban on clothes or veils that do not allow the wearer to be fully identified. But the bill, which makes wearing of the burqa a criminal offence punishable with a fine of $20-34 and/or a jail sentence of up to seven days, will not come into force for weeks and may have to be re-examined if early elections are called as Belgium battles a political crisis.[……….]

Veil a ‘walking prison’ for women, say Belgian MPs

BRUSSELS: Belgium’s ban on the burqa will be imposed in streets, public gardens and sports grounds or buildings ‘‘meant for public use or to provide services’’ to the public, according to the bill.

‘‘We’re the first country to spring the locks that have made a good number of women slaves, and we hope to be followed by France, Switzerland, Italy, and the Netherlands; countries that think,’’ said liberal lawmaker Denis Ducarme.[………]

In France, forcing women to wear burqa will draw jail term

PARIS: France will jail and impose huge fines on anyone who forces a Muslim woman to wear a full-face veil, according to a leaked version of a proposed law revealed on Friday.

While women will face only a 150-euro penalty if they choose to don a burqa or a niqab, President Nicolas Sarkozy wants to slap one-year prison terms and $20,000 fines on those who make others wear them.[………….]

Burqa and naqab have no place in Denmark, says PM

COPENHAGEN: The face-covering burqa and niqab veils worn by some Muslim women have no place in Denmark, Prime Minister Lars Loekke Rasmussen said on Wednesday, adding his government was considering restricting them.

Rasmussen stopped short, however, of calling for a ban on the veils, noting “legal and other limits”. “The government’s position is clear: the burqa and the niqab have no place in Danish society. They symbolise a view of women and humanity that we totally oppose and that we want to combat in Danish society,” Rasmussen told reporters.[………….]

It amazes me how they cal llimiting somebody’s freedom as being PROGRESSIVE..and people in the other side of the world,including the majority in my country itself hail such actions as YO YO..Shame on you guys..If it was something against helping women who were forced to do so,I would be the first one to talk for them..But is this what we need? You think you have defeated them..But I am sure that your consious mind will feel guilty if you have atleast a drop of humanity.

I hated burqa or hijab as you call it,till this date.But now I have started loving it and I WILL WEAR IT ONE DAY,not because I endourse its intention,but just to let you know that you all are donkeys who bray at others dumb sanctions.

Even if muslim women,WHO WANT TO WEAR IT, are blocked from doing so,they will meet their Lord ..You can’t stop that.

Duh,I feel disgusted for having wasted my precious time writing against sickos..

What is it that Nuns around the world wear?Why is it that their attire doens’t convey the message of “walking prison”..Because they belong to that religion held by rich developed countires? Why is it that they don’t “symbolise a view of women and humanity that we totally oppose and that we want to combat insociety”

I just hated that black cloak stuff till this day..But trust me,from today I will advocate it to a many people as much as I can..Stop me if you can.. If you can wear bikni,why can’t I wear burqa?

Image copy-pasted from

Its awards time again…and some thoughts on hijab/veil

Its award time again and I have been awarded with some great thoughts of appreciation.E-life has blessed me with some great friends and widen horizons of reading and understanding.I am glad and thankful to all for making me a part of your e-life 🙂


Thank you Manjug and Smitha..Indeed,as award is a note of appreciation and the feel of having been remembered is great .Manju has passed me the Shield..Honestly speaking i was flattered by her words..

shield_I am pleased to pass this award on to a blogger friend whom I greatly admire for her honesty, empathy for others, and for her perseverance in researching the historical background of political situations, Nimmy. Please accept this as a token of my friendship.

Smitha has awarded me the Versatile Blogger award..She says

Nimmy – She blogs, she cooks, she gardens – and from the look of it – she’s good at all of it!



Woo hoo,thanks Smitha,I am honoured to be appreciated as an all-rounder 😉

Both Manju and Smitha have awarded me ‘I love your blog’ and ‘Lovely Blogger’ awards..Thanks a lot..I find myself obsessed with adding on awards to my sidebar..Do pass again 😉



I Pass all these four awards to my friends who made my e-life a beautiful one-with all their varient thoughts,informations and feelings 🙂 I thank all my readers for being the integral part of my blog and please do continue to share your thoughts..

I pass this award to IHM, Nita, Shail, Cris, Vimal, Dev, Charakan, Amit, Chirag, Pinku, Solilo, Salil, Reema, Kanagu, Alice, Reshmi, Praddep,1conoclast,@lankrita,Sandeep and Poonam.I am sorry if i missed anybody in my dear-list..Will update when my brain recalls your name 🙂

 Also,I would like to award this the shield to Aam Insaan who is a regular reader and who shares lot of thoughts,but doesn’t have a blog.

Please accept the award as a not of friendship and appreciation..


The other day,we discussed on Hijab/veil.Ziggy has shared some thoughts,which are exactly similar to my view on this subject.I am pasting his comment here so that you all would read.

Everyone MUST have the right to chose how or what the want to wear. Just like women MUST have a choice of wearing a Hijab, Women MUST also have a choice NOT to wear it, and no stigma attached either way.Veil or Naqab in my opinion is going to far, but everyone must be free to decide for themselves.

No where in the Qur’an the word ‘Hijab’ is used for any part of clothing. The word used is ‘Khimar’ meaning cover, and it is used as in to cover your chest. “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils(Khimar) over their bosoms” No where the word head or hair is used.

The precise word ‘Hijab’ has been used in the Qur’an a few times but never in correlation with clothing, it is used as a barrier. Al-Hijab = Barrier Khimar = Cover

Another verse in the Qur’an says; O’Children of Adam, We have bestowed upon you clothing to conceal your private parts and as adornment. But the clothing of righteousness [TAQWA] is the best. This is from the signs(revelations) of Allah that they may remember. (Al-Araf, 7:26) The above clearly distinguishes the superiority of Righteousness. Taqwa(Consciousness, Righteousness) far supersedes a mere piece of cloth.

No where in Islam it says Hijab is mandatory. Today Hijab is cultural and used as ‘Control’. There is no doubt about it and I say this with 100% certainty and I challenge anyone . . . that in overwhelming majority of cases Hijab is imposed. Take any country; Afghanistan, Iran, Malaysia, Iraq, Pakistan, Saudi Arabia, Somalia, Egypt . . . . women are forced, pressured and coerced.

Why is there no focus on Men’s modesty? Why should men not cover themselves, why should men not cover their head, why should men not hide their handsomeness just for their wives? Why should women carry men’s Burdens. No one has the right to impose their views on others!!

Why has all Islam been squeezed into a mere piece of cloth? Why has Islam been completely pinned to a mere piece of cloth. So suddenly you put on a piece of cloth and you become a symbol of Piety? So women who don’t wear Hijab are not Pious, or religious, or good Muslims, or modest!! What does a piece of cloth got to do with modesty or Piety? Hijab is NOT the Pinnacle of Islam or a symbol of Piety.

Is there nothing else in the Qur’an that is even slightly important that Hijab, or nothing in the Qur’an that by far supersedes this absurd fixation on Hijab. So a piece of cloth takes presedence over and is more important than; Salah(Prayers), Zakat(Alms, compulsory in Islam), Fasting, backbiting, jealousy, charity, Sadaqa(a form of Charity), greed, oppression, human rights, treatment of women, anger, envy, family, forgiveness, promises, usury, revenge, stealing, superstition, love, peace, unity, brotherhood . . . . . . . . . . .

Good day to all


p.s:I will take an hour to link to all my friends..I am little busy now and will link soon later.Sorry.

Dear Readers,what do you think of veil/pardha/hijab?

These days,I am not feeling so well..Also,a cooking bug has infected me and i want to cook something new every now and then.So,I am wandering on the internet like a hippe (err,does that comparison make any sense **scratches head**) I am really sorry to all my dear readers who have commented but I am yet to reply..I have learned lot from you all and I am thankful too you for spending time to read my rants 🙂


 Today,I would like you all to speak about ‘What do you think of hijab/Pardha/veil of muslim women?’..This is a plain question and you are free to say what you have it in your mind..The first and last rule here is to be honest  🙂 There is no such thing as ‘Am I right,Am I wrong,What will she think,Am I being prejudiced,Am I judging somebody’ etc etc etc..I ask,because I want to know more and share more..I thought of making this post as a poll or like type,but then again,it would make it difficult for those of you who would like to talk more on this subject..It would be great if you had made a post on this,but even otherwise,it would still be great if you comment here 🙂


 Finally,do make sure to answer one single question ‘ What do you think of those women who don’t wear veil’..Do you think of them as less religious,or rebellious,or stupids??

While you write,have a piece of my healthy Pizza (there isn’t any mozarella cheese and the dough is of wheat flour)  and Cappichino muffins






Good day to all..




Those who copy my pictures will burn in hell 😉