60 Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love ..
Got this as a foward mail..Bored people alone need go through the post,as some of the ponits are good while some are utter crap…Don’t throw stones at me,for I didn’t write this 🙂
60 Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love
1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife!
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Smell good!
4. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
5. Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”
6. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta’ala gives you something really to complain about.
7. Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling with the right person who can give advice in either:
8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
9. Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights
10. Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.
11. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
12. Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.
13. Tell him he’s the best husband ever.
14. Call his family often.
15. Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.
16. When he’s talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you’re interested
. 17. Encourage him to do good deeds.
18. If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, inshaAllah.
19. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It’s a big deal.
20. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet.You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.
21. When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU make me furious”, rather, “This action makes me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.
22. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.
23. Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if they’re good guys. Encourage him to go out, so he doesn’t feel “cooped up” at home.
24. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really
25. Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings.
26. Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it.
27. Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell them to him.
28. Tell him you’re the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you’re good at.
29. Learn to make his favorite dish.
30. Don’t ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husband–and other people also think you have a bad husband.
31. Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you’re a home-maker, take online classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.
32. Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in everything you do.
33. Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions like he’s your servant. “They are garment to each other” [Surah Baqarah, 2:187]
34. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha, radiallahu anha, narrated that the Prophet , salallahu alaihi wasalaam, used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like “a knot.” And the next time he would ask her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to her saying, “Jazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.”
35. Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him.
36. Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife, cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.
37. Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don’t laugh or talk too loud or walk like an elephant.
38. Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.
39. Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.
40. Don’t discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.
41. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
42. Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the “dough”. It makes it easier for him to go to work.
43. Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.
44. Brush your hair, everyday.
45. Don’t forget to do laundry.
46. Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.
47. Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or computers.)
48. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies
49. Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his money.
50. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
51. Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)
52. Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children permitted).
53. Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction
. 54. If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don’t wait until matters become worse.
55. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like du’ah, and love only exists between spouses where Allah instills it.
56. Don’t EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don’t say, “well her husband doesn’t do that, why do you …” (thats a killer!)
57. Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you enter Jannah together inshaAllah–and of course, vice versa!
58. Strive for Allah’s love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah’s love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And remember–if Allah loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire creation will love you.
59. If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time sneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesn’t take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel
60. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.
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heeee hee,how many of you read this in complete??? 🙂
Nimmy's Experiment with Blogging 
I think I can skip this post 😀 😀
FIRST!!!
Nothing unheard of among them. Some as you said are good, some are crap. But whether you like them or not, are true!
Nimmy, when you managed 60, why not another 40? 😉
Common you can write more am sure! 😀
Waiting for a
“60 ways to Keep Your Wife’s Respect”
Most things here are part of general bonding in a marriage and should be both ways to make good sense 🙂
Khalil Sawant that’s the first thought that came to my mind when I read the post title 😆 Brilliant suggestion 🙂
If a woman needs to purposely do all this to keep her husband’s love, I think both of them are better of not being married!
never mind… I thought you would give some funny excerpt… somewhere… 😐
Sorry – couldn’t stop rolling my eyes throughout this. Funny thing is most of the stuff my husband does for me teehee 😀 Guess he knows how to keep his wife’s love then 😛
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Some are alright, some ridiculous! 😀
timepass!! 😛
Some of them are really true and have to be followed by both 🙂
OMG Is this for real??!!! I have been married 27 years, this is our 28th year running. Other than a ‘be yourself and find your own path’ I wouldn’t give a single advice for a marriage to succeed. All this makes it look so mechanical, to-do lists and all!! Why marry at all??! *rolls eyes* 😆
I agree with you Shail!! I am also amazed at the total lack of an wise advice for husbands… maybe that’s why….
*(finally understands)*
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@Kanagu..read the new post :-p
@pradeep… 🙂 All of them are true??Let me read them again..
@Praveen..lol…maybe you missed the point that “I didn’t write this”..Well,i can cook up an encyclopedia ,not just these silly 60 points 😉
@Khalil.. 🙂 Read the new post,but i found this one more interesting..
@Silvara…glad to see you here.. So,your life seems cool .. 🙂
@Dhiren..I was/is not in a good mood to write anything funny
@Pixie..yeah timepass..Problem arises only when timepass turns into compulsions and obligations..
@Shail..:) ((hugs)))
Oops am sorry Nimmy!
I did miss the first 2 lines :).
Y Nims 😦 No reply for me 😛 even its just hmm, ok etc .. 😉
Am i in wrong place !!!!!!!! 😯 😯
Out of syllabus for me 😀 ….
Anyways i copy pasted and saved it in my inbox 😀 😀 ….
Lot of thinking has gone into this…hmmm.. and the updated version is so good..LOL
@Swaram..oh dear,i am really sorry i missed to reply to you..My wordpress is ill and is not letting me answer comments properly and hence i have to open another page ,of the post ans look comments in one and answer in another..Really sorry darling.. and yes,i agree to what you said,its applicable for both ..
Sorry again ((hugs))
@Anish.. 🙂
@Nu..Welcome here Nu..your name is new 🙂 thanks for your words and do come again..
Good day to all..
Hey thanks for that sweet witty welcome 🙂 Will surely drop by for more 🙂
WOW! WHAT A FOSSILIZED GENIUS!!!
we should seek the services of an accomplished anthropologist to correctly determine the age of this cousin of the dinosaur!
POINTS in here that struck me the most..
No. 19 – yeah, you begger girls, thank him profusely for providing you with food and shelter. its a BIG DEAL !
No. 27 – hee hee ho ho hoooo. if you have difficulty in remembering (living with such a moron should knock the senses out of any sensible girl)jokes you read on the internet. take a print out, tuck it in your “attractive” dress and read it to him. I remember actor srinivaasan pulling a similar stunt in one of his movies. how come he is advocating the use of internet to wives, without warning them NOT to visit chat rooms and adult sites? ??
No. 51 – “learn techniques” to please him in intimacy!! practice is preparation undertaken outside the actual event. so wives should “practice ” where?!!?? If undergoing FGM will “please him” more, you should mutilate your genitals too and should stitch up yourself after each delivery to maintain the tightness of the hole where he seeks pleasure .
No. 59 – love notes and poems ? even if you write poetry, dear girls, do not cast those pearls in front of this swine. the only note you have to leave for him is “DO IT TO ME, DO IT TO ME BABEEEEH!”
No. 12 – compliment him on things he lacks.!! compliment him on his “intelligence”. looks won’t be a problem I suppose! fossils are naturally good-looking!!
Ihave just read this and the last comment had me rolling around the floor laughing
I can’t help but quote Eckhart Tolle; this may sound a bit complicated at first but it isn’t:
Love, joy, and peace are deep states of Being, or rather three aspects of the state of inner connectedness with Being. As such, they have no opposite. This is because they arise from beyond the mind. Emotions, on the other had, being part of the dualistic mind, are subject to the law of opposites. This simply means that you cannot have good without the bad. So what is sometimes wrongly called joy is the usually short-lived pleasure side of the continuously altering pain/pleasure cycle. Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas joy arises from within. The very thing that gives you pleasure today will give pain tomorrow, or it will leave you, so its absence will give you pain. And what is often referred to as love maybe pleasurable and exciting for a while, but it is an addictive clinging, an extremely needy condition that can turn into its opposite at the flick of a switch. Many “love” relationships, after the initial euphoria has passed, actually oscillate between “love” and hate, attraction and attack – Eckhart Tolle in The Power of Now