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..Of girls’s education and marrying off them early….

My college reopened today. One of my friends randomly made a comment “Why don’t you sit at home and look after your husband and kid”.. Err…

Then I remembered this person I mentioned in my below post…Now I  have a feeling that theer not just few,but many people out there who strongly belive that girls needn’t study and that their life is meant for 2-3 purposes alone..**sigh**

A post very close to my heart…

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This post is purely fictional and bears no resemblence with any characters dead or alive..

Last day,somebody told me so and so…

A: Girls should be married off by the age of 18-19..

Me:Err,isn’t that too early ..

A:Early? not at all..Bcoz by 20+,they will start making their own choices and will have own opinions

Me :So?

A: So? So ,parents should marry off girls before they start having firm opinions and start making decisions for themselves

Me :But isn’t it their life? Moroever,when we marry off them too early,how can they complete their eductaion?How can they have their career?

A: Ha,what is the need for girls to have so much education.The role of women in a society to make a good family and bring up kids in a good way .

Me :Of course that too is important,but it amazes me that a 21st century human being is saying that girls needn’t have much education..

A:All this ‘men-women equality and stuff is bullshit. Women cannot be equal to men.

Me:I never said that they are equal..Both are different on their own ways,but that doens’t mean that they weigh different in the balance of nature

A:Let me tell you an eg. Last day,there was an accident nearby,when a lady bumped into a sccooter-wala and he died..The lady was admitted to mental hospital for weeks..Have you ever heard of a man being mentally unstable just because he met with an accident?you women are silly and emotionally weak ,and let me remind you,they are physically weak since ages..

Me :You are generalizing,thatz not fair..

A:Ok,let me tell you something.What if I sent my daughter to study medicine.Obviously,by the time she passes out,she will be 24 yrs and so,and she will not accept proposals from any men on a lower grade than doctors themselves.

Me :whatz wrong in that? Its fine that a Doctor is looking out for a Doctor..

A:Its ok with her,but not for me,as I have find Crores of money for her dowry.

Me :Look out for boys who don’t ask dowry.

A:Such people exist only in theory.In pracitise,all people ask for dowry,and when it comes to higher grade boys ,as like Doctors,they ask for loads of gold and money..So tell me,should I let my daughter become a doctor and finally spoil my life in the name of her dowry,or should i marry off her to an average man,at the age mentioned earlier,when she is not so firm in her choices and opinions..On another note,there is no need for lady doctors..

Me: **faints** What??”No need for lady doctors”..

A::Yes,tell me what is the problem if there are male doctors alone? Afterall women are weak enough not to enter areas like surgery and such complicated stuff..Tell me how many efficent female surgeons and anesthesists have you seen or heard?

Me: Well,are you saying that there needn’t be female gynecologists too?A:Thats the only area where women can empathize with fellow patients..But even in that field,there isn’t a compulsory need. Labour and Cecarian will be fine in men’s hands too

Me : **girns** not knowing what to say..

A: coming back to the topic,i still stand by what i said,” Girls needn’t study much and should be married off early”..

Me :Err,this is complicated..But it is wrong that you dump her into somebody’s head even when she is immature to undertstand right and wrong in life..Moreover,if she is educated,if some problee happens in marriage life,she can stand in her own,instead of running back and crying in front of parents.

A:You are wrong.In real time,it is the educated girls who come back to families,while the other end girls move on with their life,rather than shouting for divorce and such.

Me :So,in the end,it is your happiness and not your daughter’s happiness that matters.. Ok fine,marry off your girl at 18,so that she will always be unable to resist the injustice that may happen and let her be a door mat..**sigh**

A::You are wrong,good girls will find happiness where they go..You women don’t know the world outside and hence you are making theoritical stmnts

Me : “How will we know the world and gain experience if you guys don’t let us? ”

A :”Oh,you alone is going to change the world”..

Me: ” Not really,but if i do my part, atleast my daughter will benefit from it”…

A : “Oh,so you want your daughter to become a feminist kinda girl and ruin her life” …

Me : I am glad I met you ..goodbye..

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Moral of the story : Don’t argue with people who have pre-conceived notions..You will end up being labelled arrogant and outspoken…

p.s “Please do not criticize the person and say anything bad about her/him,as I don’t intend to hurt the person..But her/his thoughts are surely worth discussion,aren’t they?

2010
07/01
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What women do not want..

Blogadda is running a contest on “What women want?”..I am not really sure of what women want.To each its own..But when I read the below piece of news,I am pretty much sure of ‘What women do not want?”
Female condom with ‘teeth’
by Kate Townshend
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Here’s a really interesting story from CNN about the release of a new ‘spiked female condom’ designed to protect women against rape and punish the would be perpetrators. South African doctor Sonnet Ehlers is distributing 30,000 of the new devices around South African cities where world cup matches are taking place, under supervision as part of a trial period.
The condom is inserted like a tampon, and should  penetration  take place, rows of tiny, jagged teeth like hooks attach onto the man’s penis. Although these do not break the skin, it then becomes impossible for him to remove without medical help, and any attempts to do so only make the device grip on more tightly.
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Unsurprisingly the device is causing massive amounts of controversy. Critics argue that since women have to wear it any time they think they may be in danger, it exaggerates the likelihood of rape and keeps women in a state of constant fear. Equally, there are potential risks in terms of what else a thwarted and angry rapist may try to do.
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I think its easy for us in the West to dismiss such a device as medieval and barbaric, but South Africa has one of the highest rape rates in the world, coupled with one of the lowest conviction rates. This article suggests that women are already taking extreme measures to put off would be assailants, including inserting razor blades into their private parts. Whether this is the answer or not (and I’m dubious personally) clearly something needs to be done to protect women in the country.
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What was that? 😳 😕
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Before we jump into conclusions,read below..
By 2006 the official figure for rape was over 55 000 ,
unofficially, based on the premise put forward by the National Institute of Crime Rehabilitation that only one in twenty rapes are reported, the figure is over 494,000 a year. This means that on average approximately one thousand three hundred women can be expected to be raped a day in South Africa. A study by Interpol, the international police agency, has revealed that South Africa leads the world in rapes. A woman was raped in South Africa every 17 seconds. This did not include the number of child rape victims. It was estimated that one in every two women would be raped. Between 28 and 30 percent of adolescents reported that their first sexual encounter was forced. Of South African men who knew somebody who had been raped, 16 percent believed that the rape survivor had enjoyed the experience and had asked for it. According to a recent study police estimated that only one in 36 rape cases was reported and of those only 15percent culminated in a conviction.[……….]
But…Is that how we deal with assulats against women? Are all women in this planet expected to wear this,in fear of being raped at any point of time? Many or most of us would love to live in denial that “Hey,this can’t happen to me”. But are we to spent our life in constant fear and ‘ready to attack mode’ 24/7? I don’t know..This news sickens me..Agreed that manyof the victims probably would wish they had had a device like this at the time of their rape, and any man who has been through this, even if not convicted of rape, would think twice before raping another victim .But still..doesn’t it take away the responsibility from men,to women?And it seems to me that it may induce a higher level of violence on the part of the attacker.  Psychological trauma24/7…Baaah… 😳
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The only welcoming strip of news is what the Doctor herself said
“Yes, my device may be medieval, but it’s for a medieval deed that has been around for decades,” she told CNN. “I believe something’s got to be done … and this will make some men rethink before they assault a woman.“[…]
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There are a lot of things that make this not work, but it is welcoming that people are addressing the problem, looking for a solution, and thinking out of the box.This may help to sent away the message that women are not always helpless.Women are indeed in sad state of affairs…Razors inside private parts..Teeth arms inside private parts..  **sigh**


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Though not about ‘What women want’,I nominate my post to
Contest by:
Blogadda and Pringoo
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(CNN) — South African Dr. Sonnet Ehlers was on call one night four decades ago when a devastated rape victim walked in. Her eyes were lifeless; she was like a breathing corpse.
“She looked at me and said, ‘If only I had teeth down there,'” recalled Ehlers, who was a 20-year-old medical researcher at the time. “I promised her I’d do something to help people like her one day.”
Forty years later, Rape-aXe was born.
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Ehlers is distributing the female condoms in the various South African cities where the World Cup soccer games are taking place.
The woman inserts the latex condom like a tampon. Jagged rows of teeth-like hooks line its inside and attach on a man’s penis during penetration, Ehlers said.
Once it lodges, only a doctor can remove it — a procedure Ehlers hopes will be done with authorities on standby to make an arrest.
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“It hurts, he cannot pee and walk when it’s on,” she said. “If he tries to remove it, it will clasp even tighter… however, it doesn’t break the skin, and there’s no danger of fluid exposure.”
Ehlers said she sold her house and car to launch the project, and she planned to distribute 30,000 free devices under supervision during the World Cup period.
“I consulted engineers, gynecologists and psychologists to help in the design and make sure it was safe,” she said.After the trial period, they’ll be available for about $2 a piece. She hopes the women will report back to her.
“The ideal situation would be for a woman to wear this when she’s going out on some kind of blind date … or to an area she’s not comfortable with,” she said.
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The mother of two daughters said she visited prisons and talked to convicted rapists to find out whether such a device would have made them rethink their actions.Some said it would have, Ehlers said.
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Critics say the female condom is not a long-term solution and makes women vulnerable to more violence from men trapped by the device.
It hurts, he cannot pee and walk when it’s on. If he tries to remove it, it will clasp even tighter.
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It’s also a form of “enslavement,” said Victoria Kajja, a fellow for the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in the east African country of Uganda. “The fears surrounding the victim, the act of wearing the condom in anticipation of being assaulted all represent enslavement that no woman should be subjected to.”
Kajja said the device constantly reminds women of their vulnerability.
“It not only presents the victim with a false sense of security, but psychological trauma,” she added. “It also does not help with the psychological problems that manifest after assaults.”
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However, its one advantage is it allows justice to be served, she said.
Various rights organizations that work in South Africa declined to comment, including Human Rights Watch and Care International.
South Africa has one of the highest rape rates in the world, Human Rights Watch says on its website. A 2009 report by the nation’s Medical Research Council found that 28 percent of men surveyed had raped a woman or girl, with one in 20 saying they had raped in the past year, according to Human Rights Watch..
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In most African countries, rape convictions are not common. Affected women don’t get immediate access to medical care, and DNA tests to provide evidence are unaffordable.
“Women and girls who experience these violations are denied justice, factors that contribute to the normalization of rape and violence in South African society,” Human Rights Watch says.
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Women take drastic measures to prevent rape in South Africa, Ehlers said, with some wearing extra tight biker shorts and others inserting razor blades wrapped in sponges in their private parts.
Critics have accused her of developing a medieval device to fight rape.
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“Yes, my device may be a medieval, but it’s for a medieval deed that has been around for decades,” she said. “I believe something’s got to be done … and this will make some men rethink before they assault a woman.”

2010
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Woman assaulted, paraded naked by 6

ALIGARH: A woman has charged six persons, including district BSP president, of assaulting and later parading her naked in a market following which a case has been registered against them by the police.

A case of assault against six persons, including the BSP leader Moolchand Bhagel, has been filed, Superintendent of Police Maan Singh Chouhan said.

He, however, said the woman was not paraded naked. The incident took place on June 2 when 45-year-old Brima Devi had a minor tiff with some persons while she was on her way back from a temple. She was then beaten up.

She alleged in her complaint to police that she was also paraded naked through the village Chandaukha, 20 kms from here.

Bir Singh, husband of Brima Devi, alleged that the police was trying to dilute the charges against the BSP leader because of political pressure.

The woman was detained by the police for a few hours in connection with some case. She was, however, let off later.

“Instead of arresting the persons named in the report, the police has arrested Devi on a case filed against her by a group ten days back,” Singh alleged.

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Is this the country we are talking about 33% reservation and like? **sigh**


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But what can you and me do to stop crimes like this? I have no idea.. Are we damn sure that this is not going to happen to you and me,since we pretend ourselves to be equipped with sophisticated living conditions? Is it really so?

2010
06/07
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If you can wear bikni,why can’t I wear burqa?

Belgium votes to ban burqa in public

BRUSSELS: Belgium became Europe’s first country to vote for a ban on the full Islamic veil or burqa, sparking dismay among Muslims and warnings of a dangerous precedent with France set to follow suit.

On Thursday night, barring two abstentions, all 136 legislators of the lower house of the Belgian federal parliament supported a nationwide ban on clothes or veils that do not allow the wearer to be fully identified. But the bill, which makes wearing of the burqa a criminal offence punishable with a fine of $20-34 and/or a jail sentence of up to seven days, will not come into force for weeks and may have to be re-examined if early elections are called as Belgium battles a political crisis.[……….]

Veil a ‘walking prison’ for women, say Belgian MPs

BRUSSELS: Belgium’s ban on the burqa will be imposed in streets, public gardens and sports grounds or buildings ‘‘meant for public use or to provide services’’ to the public, according to the bill.

‘‘We’re the first country to spring the locks that have made a good number of women slaves, and we hope to be followed by France, Switzerland, Italy, and the Netherlands; countries that think,’’ said liberal lawmaker Denis Ducarme.[………]

In France, forcing women to wear burqa will draw jail term

PARIS: France will jail and impose huge fines on anyone who forces a Muslim woman to wear a full-face veil, according to a leaked version of a proposed law revealed on Friday.

While women will face only a 150-euro penalty if they choose to don a burqa or a niqab, President Nicolas Sarkozy wants to slap one-year prison terms and $20,000 fines on those who make others wear them.[………….]

Burqa and naqab have no place in Denmark, says PM

COPENHAGEN: The face-covering burqa and niqab veils worn by some Muslim women have no place in Denmark, Prime Minister Lars Loekke Rasmussen said on Wednesday, adding his government was considering restricting them.

Rasmussen stopped short, however, of calling for a ban on the veils, noting “legal and other limits”. “The government’s position is clear: the burqa and the niqab have no place in Danish society. They symbolise a view of women and humanity that we totally oppose and that we want to combat in Danish society,” Rasmussen told reporters.[………….]

It amazes me how they cal llimiting somebody’s freedom as being PROGRESSIVE..and people in the other side of the world,including the majority in my country itself hail such actions as YO YO..Shame on you guys..If it was something against helping women who were forced to do so,I would be the first one to talk for them..But is this what we need? You think you have defeated them..But I am sure that your consious mind will feel guilty if you have atleast a drop of humanity.

I hated burqa or hijab as you call it,till this date.But now I have started loving it and I WILL WEAR IT ONE DAY,not because I endourse its intention,but just to let you know that you all are donkeys who bray at others dumb sanctions.

Even if muslim women,WHO WANT TO WEAR IT, are blocked from doing so,they will meet their Lord ..You can’t stop that.

Duh,I feel disgusted for having wasted my precious time writing against sickos..

What is it that Nuns around the world wear?Why is it that their attire doens’t convey the message of “walking prison”..Because they belong to that religion held by rich developed countires? Why is it that they don’t “symbolise a view of women and humanity that we totally oppose and that we want to combat insociety”


I just hated that black cloak stuff till this day..But trust me,from today I will advocate it to a many people as much as I can..Stop me if you can.. If you can wear bikni,why can’t I wear burqa?

Image copy-pasted from  http://www.abc.net.au/reslib/200904/r360385_1662308.jpg

2010
05/01
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Poll results..

Sexual Harassment in workplace-Is ‘provocative dressing’ a causative factor?

Posted by Nimmy on March 25, 2010

Is the way one dress, a causative factor for sexual harassment?

Yes 47% (15 votes)

No 19% (6 votes)

At times 34% (11 votes)

Total Votes: 32


 Females need to realize that they are putting themselves at a higher risk for violence when they dress in a sexually oriented manner

Yes 70% (21 votes)

No 10% (3 votes)

Don’t know 10% (3 votes)

No comments 10% (3 votes)

Total Votes: 29

Thanks to all those who shared their opinion.I am glad to confirm that people speak something different in virtual world,than they do it in real life.

2010
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