Culture and Tradition-all in the hands of homosexuals..

 Ok, gay-rights are again in limelight . The cabinet is on a move to decriminalize gay-sex and has asked for opinions from various sections of people,mainly religious leaders. Now that Deoband has reacted to this call,that homosexuality is prohibited in Islam and has gave their opinion not to revoke the criminal law.Fine,everybody is entitled top ahve their own opinion. But I wish they had reacted a few days later ,after the Church and other religious organizations have made their stand,so that by then people would have bored cursing God and His religious rules. As far as I am informed,no organized religion approves homosexuality. Even Hinduism (which in itself is not a religion but a collection  of rules and traditions) has two opposing views about homosexuality.  That said,I am wondering why people (commentators in forums) talk as if Indian muslims are the only people who are against gay rights in India.. **rolls eyes**..I wonder whether RSS ,the Church,sikhs etc do have a different stand…So please make your stand clear before you spew at Deobands..

I don’t suscribe to the view that homosexuality should be criminalized..If Islam prohibits it,If Bibile prohibits it,if Manusmriti prohibits it,if Sikhism prohibits it,if ..if…if…………………..so? This is India,a secular country..Neither is this a Islamic Republic,nor a Christian Conservative nation,nor a Hindu Rashtra..So,live and let live..I don’t know why are we bothered about what others do in their bedroom.You criminalize it or not,they are going to do it anyway,either for fun or otherwise. So,whatz all this drama all about? I fyou are so bothered about your culture and tradition, raise your voice against other evils in the society that are of greater importance. Are rapists part of your holy-religion and culture? Are pedophiles your representatives? If not,please deal with them first and then talk about gays who form a minority.

Yeah,again a post on women’s attire

Blogosphere is reloaded with posts on “women’s dresses and individual liberty”..IHM has a great post here,Alankrita has a great one here,read Amrutha’s thoughts here..I have had infinite posts on this very same topic, but [please don’t throw stones at me] ,am I yet to make up my mind on this ?. My thought is simple “ If men can’t control themselves.why not I myself take care,as it is my life and my safety”..Ok,ok,I know that even purdah cladded women aren’t free from all this.But still,when in a group,is it not wise to dress as to go along with it rather than trying to stand out.Yes,everybody has individual choices and people may like to draw attention,and yes,I know that even then,”She asked for it” doesn’t hold true. That said,given that we know that there are perverts around us,why should we take the risk of drawing attention?

Yes,I know that modestly is relative and that wearing purdah won’t make you safe. But thatz not my point.When is a beach, a sari or lehanga will attract most eyes,whereas a swimsuit or bikini worn women may go unnoticed (depending on the level of decency of people around) Likewise,when in an office, a sari-nari will go unnoticed whereas a sleeveless-top lady will make many men smile. Ok,now you are asking me “Why should I sacrifice my comfort for the sake of others modesty/immodesty benchmark?” True,but why do we want to attract unwanted attention? Now you are going to tell me “What if all women wore sari/purdah/salwar? ” Oh well,perverts are going to find some reason no matter what,but atleast we  tried our part..Now don’t blame me that I am champion of “Blame the victim philosophy”.No,I am not,but I personally would take care to dress ‘along with the group’ and would advise the same to my baby girl so that very few eyes would fall on me…

I don’t know how true is it that men are turned on visually (I always wonder why men claim this as something to be proud of ..duh..) .There is no logic included in all this stuff..What describes a man’s attitude of raping a baby or a 70 yr old grandma..What is there in them that turns them on?But still they do it.As said many times earlier,rape and other molestations is not about sex,about about control and desire,desire to own,atleast for a moment. So I would like to live in a way that would make least (nil except my partner preffered) people would look out for me.So,does that me that I am going to live shut in a dark room? No,I want a life,but I am afraid of those men and women out there in the light,them who are sickos.. Can I claim my individual liberty,dress,walk and talk they way I want to and move around?.But can I do about and stop those sickos.. ? What do I do then?Until and unless we have a more secure social attitude towards women,I am not going to talk against such acts  like that in Kanpur ,especially because it deals with yound girls who are yet to perceive the truth of evil world…And all this doesn’t mean that I look down at those bold women who have it in them to choose their way of living,and be happy about it.But I will be put down by my dear’s pointing fingers that “You asked for it”..So I am not for all this liberal and individualistic way of life….

It’s a bad bad world out there  :(

p.s: My bad that I googled “Why should women dress modestly?”..I am more confused/irritated now….

Why to dress modestly for lasting relationshp and marriage

Three questions on marital life…

1. What will you do when your partner says that he/she made a wrong choice,by selecting you as his/her partner?

2.What will you do when your partner says that he/she finds more peace of mind when you are away?

3.What will you do when your partner says that you are the cause of all issues/fights at home?

 

p.s :The questions bear no resembelence to me or my life .I just want to know how different people deal with life differently…

 

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Hi all..

Yeah,I know…Its been a long time,really long time.. I missed you all badly..Life has not still come to calm state,to that old state as I had earlier where I could read 3-4 newspapers,read all my friends blogs,comment,post my own rants etc etc etc.. Never knew relocation is such a bad state of transition   Its not about moving from one home to another,but about changing and adapting to a whole new enviornment.. I don’t know,I just feel like living a messy life everyday..I haven’t even put up my pc (I am writing this from my parental home) grrrr,I am wondering when will I be back to my old state,lazy old state .Neverending functions,neverending commitments ,I don’t know,but I liked my old life.But ofcourse,no complaints.I am trying to see this as a diffrent phase of life.. I fell ill 2-3 times and now I am too ill ( fever )even to type,but if I postpond,I maynot be able to post anytime sooner.

 So,whatz up all good news from you side buddies?? A quick walk over a few blogs made me realized that your blogging life has chnaged a lot..IHM,Indyeah,Usha ,Monkia ,Hicthwriter has moved to wordpress!! So,hows your new home dearos Solilo is still going cool with her supercool headers…Solilo,will you make me  a header?? Vimmu has never ending funny posts..Reema had mentioned me in one of her posts..Is she back? Nita , how are you??Mandira,thanks for remembering me Hey Roop,how are you,I hope you are fine and fit.. Vikas,are you still on blog break?Pinku,,Alankrita,Pixis,Smitha,Kanagu,Destination Infinity ,anka,Pradeep,Biju, Dev,Salil,Poonam,Saraboney,Manju Howz life ???? My love and regards to all….Take care..

 I noticed that there are many new bloggers who participate in discussions on my dearos blogs….Glad that there are many similar minded people out there.. Even I have got new friends out here and I thank all of you for your comments.. This is not a ‘comeback post’ I will be blogging only when I am out of this husha-rusha life… Till then,its goodbye from me to all you dear ones out there..Thanks for remembering me..

Love..

Nimmy

 

(Sorry for not linking all names,I gotta go now)

 

 

Edited to add : Oops,how bad off me not to mention my dear friend Charakan…. Hi Doc,How are you??